CHANGE YOURSELF

How many times have we attempt the impossible and tried to change other people - but attempting this is a waste of time! 

I can't tell you how many times I have tried to change other people and I have failed. There was one person in particular with whom I am very close; this person was not happy with their life, they were bored and lonely. For years I tried to change them, to help them lead a more productive life. 

It Did Not Work

Guess what, it didn't work. I just ended up being frustrated, until I realized that I couldn't change them until they changed themselves. 

As much as we want to, we all need to understand you truly cannot change other people. 

"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." 

Leo Tolstoy

Think About This

Think of a time when you tried to change a personal habit. As we have absolute control over how we think, you would assume changing a habit is easy. As we all know, it is not. 

Stop and consider how difficult it is for us to try and change other people when we have no control over their thoughts. 

To draw on the wisdom in an old saying, "You cannot change other people, you can only change yourself." If you want others to change, then you must change. 

Whether it is the behaviour of a child, a boss, a co-worker, a friend, or a spouse you are the one who must change. You can change the way you express your feelings towards the behaviour. 

Or, you can change your reaction to the behaviour. In some cases, you may have to change by accepting the behaviour. 

The Point Is This

You have control over you and that is the only person you can change. When you realize this you will save yourself a lot of frustration. 

Remember: you can change YOU and only YOU.

- Be Inspired.